How Girls Flirt | What They Really Want
They key to understanding how girls flirt is based entirely upon their values but probably not in the way your thinking.
So Let me explain….
Men and women have a list of basic human values that we use in a value system. We use this value system to evaluate attraction for a potential partner.
We pick and choose who we want to spend our time with based on how high they score with our values.
The values themselves are basically the same for both sexes. The weight and order that we place on each value is different.
When looking for potential partners, someone has to have a certain value being displayed to get interest in them from members of the opposite sex.
This is what you call the pre-qualifying value. This is the very first value in the models below.
Once they have their attention, then they have to display the other values to present themselves as the most valuable potential partner.
If they do this correctly, then their chances of starting a relationship with this person are at their highest.
Men
On a scale to 100, men typically place these weights on these values in this order:
Initial Attraction Security Value
{Physical+Social+Self}+{Financial+Intellectual+Spiritual + Social Class} =Total
40% 20% 15% 10% 8% 5% 2% 100%
Note: To measure where a particular woman stands on this scale, everything is on an all or nothing bases. For example, she either qualifies for 40% or 0% on Physical Value. Follow this method for all values and the total is what value you place on this woman.
Note: Every man is different so weights and order may change due to life circumstances. Model is for clarification purposes only.
Men typically place physical value as the pre-qualifying value that women need to have to get their interest.
If a woman is physically attractive, a man will almost always be interested in getting to know this person.
This is why a woman’s greatest power over a man is her beauty.
Once a man and a woman are engaging in conversation, a man will try to pin a social value on her.
Is she well liked by most people? Does she have great a personality? What kind of friends does she have? Etc…
If this value is adequate, then he will see if she is secure about herself. This is self value or self confidence.
Normally, these three values are enough for a man to want to start a relationship with a woman.
After this man and woman start the relationship, the other values come into play.
At this point both the man and the woman are probably comfortable enough to care about these other values.
Men typically look to financial value next because they want to know how much financial dependence their will be on him.
This is perfectly natural and correct because our role in evolution has been to provide safety and security for women.
Next is intellectual value because knowledge is power and we do care about how much power a woman is bringing to the relationship.
This is why we may be more attracted to women with an education.
Now intellectual value is actually very low on the totem pole. A lot of men could care less how much intellectual value a woman has as long as she makes up for it in physical value.
Once again this is why women pay so much attention to their looks. This is why they spend hours shopping for that right outfit and getting their hair and nails done.
It is actually very important.
This is a point that men should steal from women. If you are lacking in one value area, balance it out with another value that women deem important.
Spiritual value is a value that men and women address when they are considering marriage.
Although it has very little weight, it can sometimes be the deciding factor.
Social class value is almost a non factor but it does play a role in some situations. Some men want a woman that is in his social class.
Women
On a scale to 100, women typically place these weights on these values in this order:
Initial Attraction Security Value
{Self+ Physical +Social}+{Intellectual+Social Class+Financial + Spiritual} =Total
15% 18% 25% 13% 4% 15 % 10% 100%
Note: To measure where you might stand on this scale, everything is on an all or nothing bases. Either you qualify for all 18% or you qualify for 0% on Physical Value. Follow this method for all values and the total is what value you might have to a woman.
Note: Every woman is different so weights and order may change due to life circumstances. Model is for clarification purposes only.
Remember a woman’s ultimate role in evolution is to seek out security for themselves and for their offspring.
This is why their values are different from ours. Even in the Initial attraction phase, women are seeking qualities that will be essential to her children’s success at survival.
Thus, Self Value is the pre-qualifying value. Women first look to Self Value because of the next guy factor.
They are approached by so many insecure guys that they look at this quality as the value that overshadows the others.
If a man even wants to be given a chance he must be secure in himself or he is done before he starts.
Next women will do the same as men and make a judgment based on physical representation but not necessarily on physical beauty.
Women are not as picky as men are in physical beauty. Do most women prefer a ruggedly handsome man with a great body? Yes.
Do they place the most weight on this value? No!
This is really good news to the average Joes of the world. Women actually place the most weight on social value.
Women are attracted the most by a man that has a lot of social value along with some physical value.
Although women seek security, if she feels she has options, she will shop around for the most attractive man.
After a man presents himself as a secure in himself, he must then put on a display of high social value.
This is crucial to his future with this woman.
Gentlemen let me side step a side to say again, what men find most attractive in a woman is not what women find the most attractive in a man.
Now, once you get through the attraction phase, you are getting to the main point of evolution.
How are you going to provide security for this woman and her children?
This is why she plays the game of picking and choosing for the best partner.
She is looking for security, point blank.
If you notice there isn’t much difference in the weights between Intellectual, Financial and Spiritual Value.
Women are looking for the best combination of values in one package.
This is why she is willing to over look a lot of physical issues in order to secure the rest of the package.
Gentlemen you must be conscious enough of this fact to be actively trying to put together the best package of security that you can offer.
If you can put together a good portfolio of security, you will have a high rate of success with women and can essentially pick and choose which woman you want to spend your life with.
Now, first you need to understand why Self- Confidence is the first and maybe Most important quality to igniting attraction when you first meet a gorgeous woman.
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